“Hey girl! Did you hear what happened with …?” Our conversation began as it typically does these days, discussing the latest breaking news. Even though we dove into a fairly lengthy discussion, I got the sense that my best friend didn’t just call to chat. Something about the uneasy tone in her voice and the slightly unfocused nature of the conversation, told me that there was something bubbling just beneath the surface. When the conversation switched abruptly to her upcoming hair appointment, I knew to buckle up and hang on because we were going for a wild, emotional ride on the roller coaster of indecision.
You see, in a few short weeks, she had a milestone birthday coming up and let’s face it, every woman begins to evaluate her life at what we have deemed mile markers: 30, 35, 40, 45, 50, 55 years old and so forth. Discussing the pros and cons of cutting or coloring hair quickly curved around old insecurities, drove through tunnels of what the future may or may not hold and dove into the comparison trap. Now here’s the part where, as a godly friend, I was supposed to encourage her in the Lord by letting her know that God has plans to prosper her not harm her, and remind her that she’s fearfully and wonderfully made. Friend, I want you to know I tried. But then she started complaining about how thin her hair is and wishing she could even have half of the thickness of my hair to add to hers. So I had to let her know that I’d spent forever trying to tame these thick curls just to get a ball cap on my head to run to the store. Of Course I topped it off with a picture of my messy hair -that will never make it to Instagram- to let her know for sure, she doesn’t want these problems!
The Lord, being the good Father He is, interrupted our regularly scheduled program to remind me of the conclusion David came to in Psalms 16.
“Lord, you alone are my portion and my cup; you make my lot secure. The boundary lines have fallen for me in pleasant places; surely I have a delightful inheritance.”Complaining about our hair, our body type, our current marital status or our career may seem minute. But how easy is it for us to fall into discontentment and wind up with an ungrateful attitude that shades every other area of our lives? It’s human nature to not just want what we don’t have but to look at someone else’s bowl and compare our portion to theirs like a kid thinking someone got more ice cream than we did. We even look at the image we had of our future selves years ago and compare it to where we are now. There’s so much freedom in realizing in those moments that God is in our cup and He is our cup. He is more than enough. Not only do we have things that we put value on such as possessions and resources but we must learn to see the purpose in what we have and be pleased. More often than not, there is someone praying for exactly what we are complaining about. It all begins with taking my focus off of the what and putting it on Him.
When we spend our time accessing, embracing, seeking and exploring the Lord, we find an inheritance that includes fullness of joy, peace, love and the power we need to change the things that we can change. When we don’t, we can change a million things in our lives and still be dissatisfied. Who He is determines everything about who I am and should shift my perspective while changing my attitude. How wonderful to know that God helps us recognize the value in all He’s entrusted to us.